“This is the nature of love,” Vashet said. “To attempt to describe it will drive a woman mad. That is what keeps poets scribbling endlessly away. If one could pin it to the paper all complete, the others would lay down their pens. But it cannot be done.”
She held up a finger. “But only a fool claims there is no such thing as love. When you see two young ones staring at each other with dewy eyes, there it is. So thick you can spread it on your bread and eat it. When you see a mother with her child, you see love. When you feel it roil in your belly, you know what it is. Even if you cannot give voice to it in words.”
“We sat for a while then, enjoying a comfortable silence. I wanted to say something. I wanted to say it didn’t bother me, but that would be a lie. I wanted to tell her all that really mattered to me was that she came back, but I was worried that might be too much truth.
So rather than risk saying the wrong thing, I said nothing. I knew what happened to the men who clung to her too tightly. That was the difference between me and the others. I did not clutch at her, try to own her. I did not slip my arm around her, murmur in her ear, or kiss her unsuspecting cheek.
Certainly, I thought of it. I still remembered the warmth of her when she had thrown her arms around me near the horse lift. There were times I would have given my right hand to hold her again.
But then I thought of the faces of the other men when they realized Denna was leaving them. I thought of all the others who had tried to tie her to the ground and failed. So I resisted showing her the songs and poems I had written, knowing that too much truth can ruin a thing.
And if that meant she wasn’t entirely mine, what of it? I would be the one she could always return to without fear of recrimination or question. So I did not try to win her and contented myself with playing a beautiful game.
But there was always a part of me that hoped for more, and so there was a part of me that was always a fool.”
Today’s quote at the end of yoga class this morning.
At the end of my usual yoga classes, when we’ve all made our way down into final savasana (or corpse pose), my instructors first read us a quote, then ring this enormous tibetan meditation bowl in a way that really feels as if you’re being cleansed of anxieties, fears, and pain. This was today’s quote (I snapped a picture of it out of my yoga instructor’s book).
“I know you’re tired, but come. This is the way.”
While laying breathless in savasana with sweat cooling my body, hearing this quote immediately reminded me of the chants I tell myself when I’m in the middle of a strenuous workout to get me through those last few reps. Things like, “If it hurts, it’s working.” Or, “That ache in your arms means they’re getting stronger.”
The reason it’s called a workout is because it takes work. You’ll only see half the results if you put in half the work, so don’t skimp on the effort. When you’re sweating, when you’re aching, and when you’re gasping for breath ready to give up, push just a little harder. Breathe. It’s okay to shake. It’s okay to quiver. That’s how you know you’re doing it right.
You are in compete control of shaping and sculpting your body. Like the poem says, when you can hear your heart pounding and your blood pumping, when you feel the sweat dripping from your hairline or down your neck, and when you find yourself straining for breath ready to give up, remember: this is exactly what you need to be doing to get the results you want. This is the way.
You’ve got this.
Keep it fit, keep it healthy, and find balance in your lives.
And breathe. Always breathe.
Good luck to you all in your fitness goals.